So you got dumped by your boyfriend or girlfriend and it doesn't just hurt, it seems so very wrong. You may be wondering what happened. You tried hard, but they decided to move on. Now that they are gone you want them back. With four easy steps we'll help make sure you have a shot at winning your ex back.

Now it's important not to dwell on the past or nitpick your every action during the relationship but you may need to consider possible problems that existed in the relationship. May be he left, because you said "no more football"? Think about how you communicate. Did she dump you, because you did not stop downloading adult stuff from the net? Reconsider your leisure activities on the web.

Think about that shopping assistant that asked you if you needed help every two minutes. If you are overly anxious to win your ex back, you are that clerk. Desperation is unattractive and lessens your own self worth. Human hearts are drawn to that which is rare. Don't disappear completely, but enjoy life and let him or her wonder what you are doing now.

Step three: Get a life and have fun.
It is also a good time to reflect on some aspects of your life, things you always wanted to improve. Whatever it is, your motivation has to be for yourself. Maybe you always wanted to learn an instrument or write a book. Just do it. Now is a great opportunity to do all those things you wanted to. The best part is that you will lead a full life and as a side benefit add to your desirability index.

Step four: Make friends.
It sounds counter to everything you may have heard about dating but you should enter the friend zone. May be what went wrong initially was a lack of true, deepheartet understanding which a friendship requires. A Relationship based on physical attraction or emotional neediness is doomed for failure. For a strong relationship, a friendship is the best foundation.

There is nothing you can do to make someone return. However, if you build a strong confidence and sense of self worth within yourself you will have at least the chance getting her back.
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